About Me2018-05-11T09:10:50+00:00
Dani Bates Coaching

I coach smart, capable women who get sh*t done

but who still struggle with their weight.

You’re a smart capable woman, (you’ve been called Superwoman by many), but you haven’t managed to conquer your own weight challenges. The years are starting to fly by, and you’re desperate to figure it out so you can reclaim your health, energy and yes, even your waistline.

Every day when you stand in front of the mirror you are dismayed. You’ve started so many times with such high expectations that “this time it will be different” and yet here you are, wondering what the hell happened to that cute face and figure.

Normally you can figure out a game plan, but in this case you’re clueless and overwhelmed. You just don’t know what the next right steps to take are. You desperately wish you had a clear path forward with a solid action plan.

Hey, I’ve been there too, and I’ve come out on the other side.

I’m a weight loss coach for smart capable women who are ready to put their weight loss struggles behind them. They understand the search for the miracle cure was a waste of time, but they have no idea what to pursue instead. I help them create a custom eating plan, and provide individual support, so not only do they lose the weight once and for all, they get back to living life fully with confidence and joy.

My battle with my weight started when I was just a kid

Ever since I was a little girl, I was told I was just like my mother and would always “have to battle my weight”. I was considered the fat one in the family and even though I hated it, I believed them. By the age of 12 I was reading magazines and following diets, because I desperately wanted to not be the “fat one”. Before long I was bingeing and purging, dabbling in fasting, restricting calories…every new fad that came along I tried it, ‘cause the hope of being “normal” and fitting in was so strong.

I carried this belief with me my entire life, always feeling too big (beside being the “fat one” I was also tall for my age…topping out at 6’). I was desperate to be normal and fit in, but no matter how hard I tried, I never quite made it.

When I was younger I would lose weight fairly easily, but soon as I lost the weight I would revert to my old habits and the weight would come right back. As I got older, the results I would get when following a new program were minimal at best. Try as I might, following the instructions to the letter, I would be lucky to drop 3 pounds.

I was getting desperate and depressed, thinking I would never be thin.

The turning point came for me when I was 50 years old. I had reached my professional goals, my children were leaving home for college, and I was looking forward to my personal goals of travel. I thought this was going to be the best time of my life, but instead I was ashamed and miserable.

I had grown to a weight I just couldn’t believe. I refer to the day that I came to this realization, as my “Hell No!” moment. I stood on the scale, looked down between my feet, and saw a number that literally made my jaw drop.

I was so devastated, so utterly lost, but also determined to do whatever I could to get my weight under control. It really felt like a now or never type moment. Either I got it under control or my very worst fears would come true.

The irony is that I am super competent and have succeeded at pretty much everything I have ever tried. Working hard at reaching goals and succeeding is how I am wired. But here I was— 60 pounds overweight and unable to successfully do anything about it. Something had to change.

A whole new path was on the horizon.

What I knew deep in my bones was traditional diets had not worked for me, I had followed them to the letter and had not ended up with the desired result. That’s when I was introduced to the concept of hiring a weight loss coach. I wasn’t sure what working with a coach was all about. Sure I’d heard of coaches, but it never occurred to me I needed or would ever use a coach.

At this point I was desperate and open to trying something new, especially if it was something completely different. Clearly the “standard” methods I had been using up to this point were not producing results I wanted. I knew whatever I decided to do it would have to be something I could follow for the rest of my life, a way that fit my food preferences, my metabolism, and my lifestyle, because as committed as I was, I was also very clear that this needed to be my permanent solution.

I had to abandon some old habits, but wow, it was worth it!

I hired a coach who took me through a 6 month process that blew my mind. Of course the process wasn’t all sunshine, and unicorns. There were days that I felt I couldn’t go on…okay I cried some, had a couple tantrums…. But that was the genius of having a coach. She wasn’t there to coddle me, she showed me the way, it was up to me to follow or not.

Follow her I did, and now I can honestly say, besides the joy of being able to be proud of my lean body every single day. I no longer suffer from stiffness in the morning when I get out of bed, my knees don’t hurt when I go down the stairs, I feel 20 years younger, I can share clothes with my beautiful daughters, and they tell their friends that their mom acts like she is in her 30’s (when I am a whole lot closer to 60).

It truly is possible to develop new healthy habits!

I achieved these results doing the same exact things I’ll feel comfortable doing for the rest of my life. So for me, there are no lingering thoughts that “this is too good to be true”, or that “this can’t last forever”. I am fundamentally a different person today than the person who started with my coach way back when. I love waking up in my own skin these days, instead of wishing I had someone else’s body.

After my incredible transformation, I had to find out how to become a Weight Loss Coach myself, so I could help as many women as possible get the relief I had found. Now a year and a half later, I am a Certified Weight Loss Coach and loving every minute of it.

The sparkle in a woman’s eyes when she tells me she is now weighing in at a weight she hasn’t seen in decades is the best part, ever. When women come up to me and thank me for changing their lives, I have to pinch myself. I feel like I have won the lottery twice over, once for me, and once for them.

Where I am today

Today, I am helping other amazing women figure out exactly how to eat in a way that leaves them feeling satisfied, while improving their health, energy, and watching their weight drop off. I love being part of their journey, watching as they realize this shit works!

It’s the best feeling ever to watch them discover what brings them joy. To untangle themselves from years of self mental abuse. (That mean girl chatter in their heads. The voice they convinced themselves was the best way to motivate themselves. Turns out they were wrong. They learn to stop her in her tracks, and replace her words with ones that actually help them succeed).

They learn to nourish their bodies and souls with love.

Every single day I am grateful for the opportunity to make a meaningful difference in my client’s lives.
And I’m not going to lie, being a Weight Loss Coach allows me to work from anywhere I want, because coaching is done via phone and internet, so I get to travel, visit my daughters, wear cute clothes, and be full of energy, and that feels pretty great too….

Would you like to be free from the “struggle” too?

I would love to hear from you! To learn more about how I can help you end your struggle with your weight, check out my Work With Me page, or send me an email at dani@danibatescoaching.com