So how did your week of body gratitude go? Don’t tell me you didn’t do it, or that you’re going to wait until you drop the weight to be grateful. ‘Cuz here’s the thing, you can’t hate on your body until one day when you  magically arrive at your ideal weight to suddenly start loving yourself. It doesn’t work that way. Not ever. Never. You think I just don’t know you, and that you’re a special unicorn and that you’re [...]

It doesn’t ever inspire. It doesn’t result in positive action. It doesn’t foster goodness. So why... oh why do we think hating on our body will cause us to “do the right thing” and eat “what we’re supposed to” and achieve our ideal weight? When we start from hate, from dismay, from disgust it is more likely that the actions we take are punishing. “I’m so fat, what happened, why can’t I get it together?” Are thoughts that lead us [...]

You know that voice in your head that sounds like it’s pleading….”just tell me what to eat and I promise this time I’ll stick to it.” You stepped on the scale this morning, or tried to squeeze into your pants, and the alarm bells started going off. This time it’s serious. You never thought it would come to this, but this is so awful that you’ll do whatever it takes. Sound familiar? Feel familiar? Truth is, you’ve probably been here [...]

I was speaking with a nurse practitioner that I admire the other day. We were speaking about our similar goals of raising strong independent daughters. She said her advice to her daughter is always; Run your own race. So wise. So applicable to women of all ages. So sage for women everywhere. Often, especially as women, we get stuck in the trap of comparing ourselves to people or norms around us. Sometimes the comparisons are completely ridiculous, like when we’re [...]

DO YOU EVER MAKE THINGS NEEDLESSLY HARD FOR YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU SIMPLY KEEP DOING THINGS THE WAY YOU’VE ALWAYS DONE THEM BEFORE? I know I find myself in the “same old, same old trap” at times, then I wonder what took me so long to finally see there was an easier way. IT’S LIKE BEING STUCK IN A BOX AND FORGETTING I CAN JUST OPEN THE LID AND STEP OUT. I actually have a couple examples from just today. The [...]

What’s the best bet you can ever make? Betting on yourself. Investing in yourself, improving your mind and your body, best bet ever. Investing in yourself can feel indulgent. A new purse, a new pair of shoes, a mani/pedi, a trip to Vegas, a lovely bottle of cabernet feels more urgent. They may feel better in the moment, but it’s a temporary pleasure. Starting your children’s (grandchildren’s) college fund, sounds urgent, the future belongs to them, right? But what difference [...]

What is a thought error? It’s a habitual thought that you think, that’s not true. For example; Many of you think, “I can’t lose weight”, when in fact you’ve lost weight several times, maybe even significant amounts, it’s just that you haven’t kept it off. Maybe you think, “I’m a complete idiot when it comes to technology”, when in fact you manage to use a computer and a smart phone successfully every day. Thought errors are a common. So what’s [...]

Do you love this time of year? Me, too!! The air feels ripe with possibilities. The days are still sunny and warm, but there’s a chill in the air at night and in the morning. School busses are rolling, and it feels like a time of renewal as we get back from our summertime fun and back into the routine of life. It’s that lovely gap between summer and the swirl of holiday season. A chance to breathe. A chance [...]

YOU’VE HEARD OF THE 5 STAGES OF GRIEF, THIS IS HOW IT APPLIES TO A NEW YOU. The 5 stages of grief are....denial, anger, sadness, bargaining, acceptance. As we’ve been talking the past couple weeks about making fundamental changes to our experiences in the world, I want to spend some time talking about the grief that can come up when making permanent lifestyle changes. IT’S EASY TO THINK YOU’D LIKE TO WAKE UP IN THAT PERFECT BODY YOU’VE BEEN DREAMING OF, OR [...]

Trick question. Everyone, right? Not true. There are people on this planet who don’t ever want more money, they live in the certainty that they will always have everything they need, and the money will continue to flow. One friend of mine (who is quite successful) says she has to be careful what she does now, because literally everything causes more money to flow to her. And not just some money…lots of money. She started life as a scrappy kid [...]