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Decisions, decisions, decisions

DECISIONS, THEY’RE HOW WE CREATE EVERYTHING. This process started when you were just a baby. You decided walking looked pretty awesome, so you set about learning how to do it. You decided you liked it better when the grown-ups knew what you wanted so you learned to communicate. EVERYTHING YOU’VE DONE…OR FOR THAT MATTER, FAILED TO DO…BEGAN WITH A DECISION AND INCLUDED A BUNCH MORE DECISIONS ALONG THE WAY. To keep going or throw in the towel. The thing is, [...]

By |2020-02-10T15:09:50-08:00February 11th, 2020|0 Comments

Do you have questions?

SOME ONE WAS ASKING ME THE OTHER DAY WHAT EXACTLY I DID IN MY COACHING PRACTICE. I told her I specialize in helping women over the age of 45 lose weight for the last time. The way I do that is; I teach them how to lose weight in a way that isn’t in a hurry and pays special attention to the transitions her body is going through (hormones my friend), and also the changes her mind is going through [...]

By |2020-01-27T13:23:20-08:00January 28th, 2020|0 Comments

What’s on your plate for 2020?

DOES STANDING ON THE THRESHOLD OF A NEW DECADE EXCITE YOU? Make you think of the things left on your bucket list that you want to move to the front burner? It certainly has for me. 2020 sounds so freaking awesome. Clarity of vision. Sincerity of purpose. Damn the torpedos…full steam ahead. GIRLFRIEND, THIS COULD BE THE DECADE OF THE WHOLE NEW YOU. So I want to share with you a line I heard from my teacher, Brooke Castillo this [...]

By |2020-01-20T11:14:16-08:00January 20th, 2020|0 Comments

Well that didn’t work!

What do you tell yourself when things didn’t go as planned? The reason I ask is, last week I proposed that this year when it comes to your weight loss goals, you opt for easy. Like only plan on losing 1/2 pound per week. Move slow, figure out what works, what doesn’t, and how you can learn to be the “new version” of yourself that weighs 26 pound less by the end of the year. But what if today, you [...]

By |2020-01-06T10:05:26-08:00January 6th, 2020|0 Comments

What if it were easy?

As the clock winds down on 2019,  we all have time to reflect on the year we just had. The things we meant to do, and the things that got left behind….again. I was chatting with a friend this past weekend, when I realized one of the “truths” that I had clung to (despite understanding at an intellectual level that was crazy), was; to be worthwhile something has to be hard. What I mean, is that if something is easy [...]

By |2020-01-06T09:59:54-08:00January 6th, 2020|0 Comments

The Magic of Believing

THE MAGIC OF BELIEVING…NOT JUST SAYING YOU BELIEVE…BUT HONESTLY DEEP DOWN IN YOUR BONES BELIEVING…CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE WITH BAREST WHISPER OF EFFORT. “Tis the season for magic so this seems like as good a time as any to check in with yourself about what you want to believe. Let me illustrate my point with a story There’s this game I play with friends on vacation, it’s a crazy game of rummy that’s so much fun. There are 3 decks all shuffled [...]

By |2019-12-03T15:39:38-08:00December 3rd, 2019|0 Comments

How to stop self-sabotage

WATCHING MY FRIENDS AND THE PEOPLE AROUND ME SABOTAGE THEMSELVES AND BEAT THEMSELVES UP NEEDLESSLY ABOUT THEIR WEIGHT AND THEIR BODY IMAGE IS SO PAINFUL FOR ME. I want to shake them and yell in their face STOP IT….It doesn’t have to be this way. But clearly that’s terrible idea. And frankly, their self-sabotage and mean girl self-talk is their journey and none of my business ( I do my own coaching around this…lots. When they want help, they’ll ask…yada, yada, yada). [...]

By |2019-11-19T10:27:17-08:00November 19th, 2019|0 Comments

How’s your gratitude working?

So how did your week of body gratitude go? Don’t tell me you didn’t do it, or that you’re going to wait until you drop the weight to be grateful. ‘Cuz here’s the thing, you can’t hate on your body until one day when you  magically arrive at your ideal weight to suddenly start loving yourself. It doesn’t work that way. Not ever. Never. You think I just don’t know you, and that you’re a special unicorn and that you’re [...]

By |2019-11-11T11:12:23-08:00November 11th, 2019|1 Comment

The trouble with hate

It doesn’t ever inspire. It doesn’t result in positive action. It doesn’t foster goodness. So why... oh why do we think hating on our body will cause us to “do the right thing” and eat “what we’re supposed to” and achieve our ideal weight? When we start from hate, from dismay, from disgust it is more likely that the actions we take are punishing. “I’m so fat, what happened, why can’t I get it together?” Are thoughts that lead us [...]

By |2019-11-04T09:42:02-08:00November 4th, 2019|0 Comments

If only it were true….

You know that voice in your head that sounds like it’s pleading….”just tell me what to eat and I promise this time I’ll stick to it.” You stepped on the scale this morning, or tried to squeeze into your pants, and the alarm bells started going off. This time it’s serious. You never thought it would come to this, but this is so awful that you’ll do whatever it takes. Sound familiar? Feel familiar? Truth is, you’ve probably been here [...]

By |2019-10-28T10:49:23-07:00October 28th, 2019|0 Comments