As the clock winds down on 2019,  we all have time to reflect on the year we just had. The things we meant to do, and the things that got left behind….again. I was chatting with a friend this past weekend, when I realized one of the “truths” that I had clung to (despite understanding at an intellectual level that was crazy), was; to be worthwhile something has to be hard. What I mean, is that if something is easy [...]

THE MAGIC OF BELIEVING…NOT JUST SAYING YOU BELIEVE…BUT HONESTLY DEEP DOWN IN YOUR BONES BELIEVING…CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE WITH BAREST WHISPER OF EFFORT. “Tis the season for magic so this seems like as good a time as any to check in with yourself about what you want to believe. Let me illustrate my point with a story There’s this game I play with friends on vacation, it’s a crazy game of rummy that’s so much fun. There are 3 decks all shuffled [...]

WATCHING MY FRIENDS AND THE PEOPLE AROUND ME SABOTAGE THEMSELVES AND BEAT THEMSELVES UP NEEDLESSLY ABOUT THEIR WEIGHT AND THEIR BODY IMAGE IS SO PAINFUL FOR ME. I want to shake them and yell in their face STOP IT….It doesn’t have to be this way. But clearly that’s terrible idea. And frankly, their self-sabotage and mean girl self-talk is their journey and none of my business ( I do my own coaching around this…lots. When they want help, they’ll ask…yada, yada, yada). [...]

So how did your week of body gratitude go? Don’t tell me you didn’t do it, or that you’re going to wait until you drop the weight to be grateful. ‘Cuz here’s the thing, you can’t hate on your body until one day when you  magically arrive at your ideal weight to suddenly start loving yourself. It doesn’t work that way. Not ever. Never. You think I just don’t know you, and that you’re a special unicorn and that you’re [...]

It doesn’t ever inspire. It doesn’t result in positive action. It doesn’t foster goodness. So why... oh why do we think hating on our body will cause us to “do the right thing” and eat “what we’re supposed to” and achieve our ideal weight? When we start from hate, from dismay, from disgust it is more likely that the actions we take are punishing. “I’m so fat, what happened, why can’t I get it together?” Are thoughts that lead us [...]

You know that voice in your head that sounds like it’s pleading….”just tell me what to eat and I promise this time I’ll stick to it.” You stepped on the scale this morning, or tried to squeeze into your pants, and the alarm bells started going off. This time it’s serious. You never thought it would come to this, but this is so awful that you’ll do whatever it takes. Sound familiar? Feel familiar? Truth is, you’ve probably been here [...]

I was speaking with a nurse practitioner that I admire the other day. We were speaking about our similar goals of raising strong independent daughters. She said her advice to her daughter is always; Run your own race. So wise. So applicable to women of all ages. So sage for women everywhere. Often, especially as women, we get stuck in the trap of comparing ourselves to people or norms around us. Sometimes the comparisons are completely ridiculous, like when we’re [...]

DO YOU EVER MAKE THINGS NEEDLESSLY HARD FOR YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU SIMPLY KEEP DOING THINGS THE WAY YOU’VE ALWAYS DONE THEM BEFORE? I know I find myself in the “same old, same old trap” at times, then I wonder what took me so long to finally see there was an easier way. IT’S LIKE BEING STUCK IN A BOX AND FORGETTING I CAN JUST OPEN THE LID AND STEP OUT. I actually have a couple examples from just today. The [...]

What’s the best bet you can ever make? Betting on yourself. Investing in yourself, improving your mind and your body, best bet ever. Investing in yourself can feel indulgent. A new purse, a new pair of shoes, a mani/pedi, a trip to Vegas, a lovely bottle of cabernet feels more urgent. They may feel better in the moment, but it’s a temporary pleasure. Starting your children’s (grandchildren’s) college fund, sounds urgent, the future belongs to them, right? But what difference [...]

What is a thought error? It’s a habitual thought that you think, that’s not true. For example; Many of you think, “I can’t lose weight”, when in fact you’ve lost weight several times, maybe even significant amounts, it’s just that you haven’t kept it off. Maybe you think, “I’m a complete idiot when it comes to technology”, when in fact you manage to use a computer and a smart phone successfully every day. Thought errors are a common. So what’s [...]