DECISIONS, THEY’RE HOW WE CREATE EVERYTHING.
This process started when you were just a baby. You decided walking looked pretty awesome, so you set about learning how to do it.
You decided you liked it better when the grown-ups knew what you wanted so you learned to communicate.
EVERYTHING YOU’VE DONE…OR FOR THAT MATTER, FAILED TO DO…BEGAN WITH A DECISION AND INCLUDED A BUNCH MORE DECISIONS ALONG THE WAY.
To keep going or throw in the towel.
The thing is, a lot of us have gotten really good at giving up or giving in when it comes to the decisions we want to make for ourselves.
We break our own hearts…but we have such great reasons;
- someone else needed us more
- it’s easier to give in than to stand firm
- we don’t think we’re worth it
- we don’t trust our own judgement.
DECIDING TO HAVE YOUR OWN BACK AND HONORING YOUR DECISIONS IS A LEARNED SKILL.
Simply realizing that you’ve gotten into the habit of quitting on yourself is the first step.
For example, how many times have you decided to “clean up your diet” as you’re sitting there way too full after dinner, or after that unplanned plate of cookies, only to “give in” the next day when your brain promised you that;
- Tomorrow is soon enough to start
- A little bit won’t hurt
- It’s be rude to not accept a special treat from a friend
- Right now is just too stressful
- As soon as I ________, then it’ll be easier
TODAY’S YOUR LUCKY DAY…WE’RE GOING TO PRACTICE MAKING BABY STEP DECISIONS AND FOLLOWING THROUGH.
Building the habit of following through on your decisions is like building muscles by working out.
You’re going to build the “muscle” of following through on your decisions…no matter what.
Just like real muscles, this “muscle” takes time.
I suggest something super simple to start with.
If you’re working to change your eating habits, start where you are.
IN THE BEGINNING, DECIDE ON A PLAN THAT YOU KNOW WITHOUT A DOUBT YOU CAN FOLLOW.
I suggest making your plan inclusive enough that you cannot possibly fail.
I once planned ahead for a Super Bowl party, and I included 10 beers (way more than I expected to drink), chips, 2 bowls of clam chowder (I literally couldn’t imagine eating more than one), plus 4 football sandwiches (2 generally fills me up…even without the other stuff) on my plan for the day.
The point was, there was no possible way on earth I was going to “blow it” when it came to this Super Bowl party.
I was going to be able to go home knowing that I had stuck to my plan, and even exceeded my own expectations.
It’s the exact same with your daily food planning…plan ahead for everything you think you’ll eat in a day.
IN THE BEGINNING, PLAN FOR MORE THAN YOU ACTUALLY THINK YOU’LL EAT.
This is the first baby step of learning to honor your decisions for yourself…make it a no-brainer.
How good do you feel when you stick to your plan?
A fist pumping, “I did it!”
Going to bed at night feeling like you killed it.
That’s what I’m talking about.
This is the opposite of our old had-wired diet mindset, where we start out restricting ourselves, then give up in hours or days, believing “it’s too hard” and “I’m never going to make it”.
Now I’m not saying you’re going to eat everything in sight for the rest of your life, but you’re going to turn down the volume of the quantity and variety in a controlled way.
A way where you always honor your word to yourself.
YOU’RE BUILDING THE MUSCLE OF DECIDING AND FOLLOWING THROUGH…NO MATTER WHAT, AND THAT TAKES TRUST.
Trust that you’ll do what you say you’ll do.
Start with baby steps and build from there.
Be willing to fail and keep on going…no matter what.
Everything is a decision. They’re how we create they life we have and the life we want.
Learn to make the decisions you want to make.