So you know that feeling when you “fall off the wagon”? The shame, the guilt, the remorse?

When you are feeling like that, what are to likely to do?

I’m going out on a limb and taking a guess….you’re probably not motivated to climb back up, because you are so busy beating yourself up for being such a loser….again!!!

Why?? Why can’t I get it together? I’m so much smarter than this, what is my problem??? What’s the matter with me? I’m such a loser!

Sentences like this start running through your head, right?

We are geniuses at making ourselves feel bad, which results in us putting the brakes on any changes we were trying to make. No wonder we are stuck in the same old loop.

Wouldn’t it be nice to give up the beat down and start being as nice to yourself as you are to a dear friend?

This is what I propose; make a list of foods that you feel are healthy choices for yourself in a few different categories. Vegetables. Fats. Proteins. Fruits. Carbohydrates. Beverages.

Really sit down and spend some time brainstorming, and put everything you can think of down. Remember, these are foods that are healthy and nourishing for your body, not snack foods or desserts….those go on another list.

Now commit to eating off your healthy foods list 90% of the time.

The other 10%, eat whatever you like that brings you joy…anything at all.

Plan your joyful eating at least 24 hours in advance. Be mindful. No spur of the moment craziness.

The result, there is no food that is ever “off limits” ever, ever again.

If you love it, save it for a joyful eating event.

The bonus, if you have planned for it, you get to enjoy it to the max, absolutely no guilt.

You’ve budgeted your 10%, you get to do with it what you want.

The interesting thing, if nothing is off limits, some of the things you loved to “cheat” with might not be as enticing.

Part of the lure of the off limits foods is the emotional charge of “being bad” when you are eating it. Weird, huh? But it’s true, isn’t it?

Once that emotional charge is exposed and eliminated, you get to zero in on the things that bring you the most joy.

Why waste your joy on a food that doesn’t make your knees go a little weak? If it’s only 10% of your plan, make it be the best damn hamburger, cake, ice cream sundae, cabernet sauvignon ever.

Not the one from the fast food joint (unless that is the pinnacle of deliciousness in your book), spend the extra couple bucks and get the sublime one from that really amazing place down the block.

Bottom line, eat healthy real food 90% of the time, eat for joy 10% of the time. Eat only when you are physically hungry, and stop the moment you get full (even if there are only 3 bites left on the plate or it cost $100).

If you follow these simple rules, most your weight issues will go away.

Now start making your list!!

I’d love to know what you are choosing on your lists. Reply in the comments section and let me know. I love to help and hear about your successes.