YESTERDAY MY CO-WORKER CAME UP TO ME AND TOLD ME THE SADDEST STORY.

His beautiful bright bubbly 6 year old came home from her first week of being in 1st grade, and told him, “dad…I need to lose weight”.

WTF!!!

Not three weeks earlier I was talking to an old friend and she told me her beautiful tall willowy nieces, age 11 and 12, said essentially the same thing, “Omg…I’ve got to lose weight!”

WHAT HAVE WE DONE??!

We didn’t realize that as we beat ourselves up we were setting an example for the youngest members of our society.

When we worried that “this pair of pants makes me look fat”, or “I’m going to have to work out an extra 30 minutes to make up for this {food}”, or “I’ll just have a shake..I’m trying to cut back my calories” they were listening.

IT SEEMS LIKE AS A CULTURE OF FEMALES WE HAVE MADE BODY-SHAMING AND PARTICULARLY SELF-BODY-SHAMING A RITE OF PASSAGE.

When we get together with our girlfriends, or when any group of females gathers, inevitably the topic of weight comes up.

Particularly the dissatisfaction with our current weight.

Thick, thin, tall, short, perfectly proportioned or not, it seems like this is the way we show that we’re part of the group.

Our children are listening..and emulating us.

I have watched the thinnest of my friends lament her “spare tire” when all I see are hip bones.

NOW THIS INSANITY HAS SPREAD TO THE YOUNGEST MOST IMPRESSIONABLE CHILDREN.

At this moment in history we are on the cusp of big changes in our society, what a perfect time to include a paradigm shift for ourselves?

#Metoo has brought awareness to how as women we have had to navigate a completely different set of norms than men.

Women are saying, “No More” to being groped, assaulted, and kept down in the work place by inappropriate behavior.

Can we also as a culture say, “No More” to the self-body shaming?

CAN WE GET TOGETHER, TALK ABOUT OUR PASSIONS, WHAT WE’RE DOING, WHAT WE’RE LOOKING FORWARD TO, WITHOUT HAVING TO GO THROUGH THE RITUAL BODY SHAMING FIRST?

We have the power to start right now!

Next time you catch yourself starting in on the old familiar conversation, just STOP.

LET’S AS A NATION OF SMART, CAPABLE, STRONG WOMEN BE SHINING EXAMPLES TO OUR DAUGHTERS, NIECES, GRANDCHILDREN THAT WE CAN BE PROUD OF OUR BODIES….NO MATTER THEIR SIZE OR SHAPE.

Let us never again hear a precious 6 year old lament that she has to “lose weight”.

Let’s throw off the “struggle” and start focusing on how we can feed our precious bodies with nourishing food and thoughts.

Let’s banish “diet mentality” and start focusing on positive changes over time.

The kind of changes that are sustainable. Changes that we can live with going forward.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Hit reply.

I’d love to start a conversation.